By Gaby
We often speak about luck as if it were something random: something that lands on a few fortunate people while skipping over the rest. But if you look closer, luck is rarely as accidental as it seems. More often, it is the result of choices, habits and the courage to act. People who appear “lucky” tend to do certain things consistently. They show up. They try, even when the outcome is uncertain. They take small risks that others avoid. Over time, these actions create opportunities that outsiders simply label as luck.
At one point, I was convinced that I simply wasn’t lucky. Especially in my twenties when I still did not have enough wisdom. I blamed my circumstances, the people around me and sometimes even the whole world for my lack of success. I kept asking myself: Why are others lucky, and I’m not? In my mind, luck meant something big e.g. winning the lottery, having money, living a comfortable life, maybe even becoming well-known. I believed that if I just had the right external conditions, everything would fall into place. At times, I even thought that if I had a rich husband, I would finally be happy. Then I could do whatever I wanted, without worrying. I found myself envying women who seemed to have that life: who could stay at home and not struggle the way I felt I had to. I envied those who were born in rich families. I also envied those who were beautiful and successful in their career. The more I stayed in that mindset, the more stuck I became. Blaming didn’t change anything. It only made me feel powerless, as if my life depended entirely on something outside of me.
Then, I started to notice a pattern in myself and began questioning it. Then I realized something: the idea that people with money or a “rich husband” are simply sitting at home, happy and free, that’s often more illusion than reality. Even if someone has financial security, it doesn’t automatically give direction, purpose or fulfillment. It can remove certain problems, yes, but it doesn’t solve the deeper ones. In the end, I realized that what I used to call “luck” was not random at all. Of course, chance exists, but it is only a small part of the picture. What we often label as luck is, in reality, the accumulation of conscious effort, persistence and decisions made behind the scenes. It is often the visible result of invisible effort.
This realization changed something fundamental in me. The envy I once felt toward others slowly disappeared. I no longer saw their lives as the result of something I was denied, but as something they had, in one way or another, built. More importantly, I stopped waiting. Instead of sitting and hoping that life would suddenly become easier or more generous to me, I began to understand that if I want change, I have to participate in creating it. Not perfectly, not all at once, but consistently. That is when everything shifted: I moved from wishing for luck to becoming responsible for my own direction.
So I learned: making your own luck begins with awareness. Opportunities are everywhere, but they are often disguised as effort, discomfort or even failure. If you avoid these, you also avoid the very situations where luck tends to appear.
Another key element is persistence. One attempt rarely changes everything. But repeated effort increases the chances of a breakthrough. The more you engage with the world – through people, ideas and experiences – the more “lucky” moments you invite into your life.
Equally important is mindset. If you believe that everything is predetermined or that luck is reserved for others, you limit your own actions. But if you see yourself as someone who can influence outcomes, you naturally become more proactive, more open and more resilient.
Finally, making your own luck requires responsibility. It means accepting that while you cannot control everything, you can control how you respond. Each decision you make either expands or narrows your possibilities. In the end, luck is not just something you wait for, but it is something you build. Quietly, consistently and often invisibly, until one day it looks like it appeared out of nowhere.
